Moms, How to Actually Enjoy the Holidays Without Burning Out
The holidays can be incredibly challenging for moms. We often find ourselves in charge of creating the Christmas spirit for everyone—decorations, meals, activities, gifts—and it can feel completely overwhelming. On top of that, we’re also supporting our in-laws, managing expectations, and trying to keep everyone happy. In the process, we forget about ourselves.
And when that happens, we don’t actually enjoy the holidays. We miss our children’s laughter, the little moments of joy, and the true essence of what the season is meant to be about.
You Don’t Find Time, You Make Time
Feeling like you have no time for yourself is real—but it’s not inevitable. The key is that you don’t find time—you make it. This means creating moments of rhythm and ritual where you can simply be with your children, or enjoy a quiet moment for yourself.
It also means letting go of expectations. You do not need to:
Do elaborate crafts or Pinterest-worthy projects if you don’t want to.
Color-code gifts perfectly under the tree.
Attend every single holiday party you’re invited to.
And yes, saying no to some things might disappoint people—but that’s okay. Your priority is your family’s well-being and your own. You can’t control how others react, but you can control the choices you make and the messages you send.
Saying No Means Saying Yes to What Matters
When you say no to something extra, you’re actually saying yes to what truly matters. For example:
Saying no to an extra holiday party at a friend’s house
Saying yes to building a gingerbread house with your kids
These are the moments that bring joy and connection. And don’t forget to ask for help where you need it—like making sure someone else handles your Christmas stocking or other small tasks. You don’t have to do everything yourself.
Reflecting on Your Holidays
The holidays are meant to be a time of connection, joy, and presence—not stress and exhaustion. By setting boundaries, simplifying expectations, and prioritizing what truly matters, you can create a season that feels meaningful and memorable—for you and your family.
Take a moment to reflect: What’s one holiday expectation you can let go of this year? How can you create more space for joy and presence with your children?